Life Partners

Its a funny feeling...

I went around stalking on FB, and I come to point of realisation that many of my friends have found their other half. I wonder if its because they are really into each other or are they simply getting their life partners for the sake of settling down, as per convention. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with me, and I am definitely not against people with someone whom they feel attached to. It just so happens to be my observation.

Maybe I am a bit slow, or some people decided to keep their relationship in a low profile, but I was really surprised when I see friends changing their relationship status ever since the last time I looked at their profile. Of course, while there are pairs who changed theirs from 'Single' to 'In a relationship', there's the other side of the coin too... Believe it or not, I do feel happy when I see couples forming, and kinda sad when some didn't work out eventually.

I have been through both, so I know how it feels. I guess it's important to pick wisely, and one should always look far. By that, I mean when you choose a partner, search for the qualities worthy of a good spouse, in the prospective guy or girl. After all, he or she is someone you are going to face for the rest of your life if things proceed smoothly. (Unless you are looking for a short relationship or not planning to get married.) True, these qualities might change with time, but there will be some that never change, and that is what you must look out for and hold onto. That is what will keep you two together no matter what, for you will be reminded that you love this person because of these qualities. That was what failed in my previous relationship. Both of us changed our qualities and those that never changed are not what we truly want. I won't comment on what were the changes, but I think the two of us know them, deep inside. After all, 1348 days is a long long time, to me. I have moved on ever since, but I made sure the lessons learnt stay with me no matter what.

When I came across Miss A and Miss B's profile, and looking at their photos, I admit I felt a little sour. But I also know, I am glad there are better people out there, and I will give them my blessings. I know things aren't going to work out anyway, so why make myself feel worst isn't it?

As for my other half and me, it was a roller coaster ride. :) Plenty of Ups and Downs. And mind you, the Ups were really sky-high and the Downs were really deep-down. Its the journey that truly matters. Indeed, I love thrill rides, but 'safety' is of paramount importance. No one likes it when it gets too thrilling to the point beyond control, where someone eventually gets more scared than thrilled and accidents happen. (Ok, I don't mean to be lame, but it sounds like Final Destination III). That is where the qualities come in. I remind myself constantly that hey, nothing is perfect and I pre-empted her that there will be times when we will start to see the uglier side of each other. Its only through crisises that we know each other better. And thus far, I am thankful for the crisises, for we have been through quite a few and surviving them will only make our bond stronger. But I will not want to undergo them again, thanks. :S Trust and communication are also key to any relationship, and they act as complements. One cannot do without the other. So far, we have thrashed out many issues, and I am glad to know what's on her mind. When you stop hiding, you start appreciating. :)

It's been a wonderful 3 months+, and I will definitely look forward to plenty more ups and downs. Ultimately, I made that decision, and I will not regret. :D